While I would somewhat agree that it hurts more to be the one who’s left behind then the one who leaves, initiating a break up can still be a very painful experience. There are a million questions on how to break up with someone properly without crushing his or hers feeling even more.

Well here are some tips I hope you’ll find useful.

Here are how to break up tips!

NO1. How to break up tip – pick an appropriate place

Now this is very up to you… ti basically goes like this, if you really just want out and your partners emotions are not any of your concern, go for a public place, you’ll avoid him or her making a scene, plus you won’t have the feeling it’s taking forever for the break up to complete. But if it’s someone you still care about and love (but just don’t want to be in a relationship with), go for a more intimate surroundings. Remember more often then not person who’s getting broken up with isn’t really aware it’s gonna happened so it will take your partner some time to adapt and hear what you’re really saying.

NO2. How to break up tip – pick the right time

There is no “right” time for a break up, it will always hurt and be painful, but if your partners mom just died or he/she got fired, you might wanna try to be unselfish and give your (ex) boyfriend or girlfriend a week or two. I know it’s not fair to you and you’re just looking to get out but put your self second if your ex has some very bad situation going on. Also take the time to do it, you can’t just scream it when you’re off to work, and you can’t just say it if you’re having a family lunch. Pick a right time, when you’re both relaxed, focused on each other and try not to break up when you’re in the middle of the fight. The other person won’t take it to seriously if you do.

NO3. How to break up tip – do it in person

I know that phone, email or even txt break up would be a lot more easy for you, but unfortunately being the one who leaves, you don’t get to have that luxury, sorry! So be fair to the person you’re dating and do it in person. Just make sure you don’t get caught up in the drama or try to have make up sex. It’s harder to resist in person and it will make you more vulnerable but if you really want to break up, stick with your decision.

NO4. How to break up tip – be honest

Honesty is crucial at this point because if you decide to take the easy way out like the usual “It’s not you it’s me” or “I need to focus on my career now”, the other person will have hopes that eventually when you and your career are at a better place, the two of you might make up. Also avoid giving double meaning answers to direct questions. Don’t allow your ex to think it’s not the end of the relationship and you can still work at it because it will only hurt your ex even more. Don’t do it, be 100% honest here about the future of your “relationship”.

Disclaimer – now don’t be 100% honest here if you’ve just cheated on your partner with his or hers best friend. It will take you no where but get you in trouble big time and it’s not being honest but being insensitive

NO5. How to break up tip – stick with what you want

If you’re sharing a living space with your ex – move out today. You can’t just go through a break up and live like roommates. It will never work and your ex doesn’t deserve to be treated like this. So if you want to break up deal with the consequences, move out, take care of your pet if you got one and especially be and adult if you have kids.

How to break up summary is just be caring and considerate since the person you’re breaking up with just lost a big part of his/hers life.

Before we begin and if you don’t want to waste any time here is a step by step how to get over a break up!

First allow me to say this, I’m sorry, I’m sorry you feel the way you do and I’m sorry to hear you’re now trying to find a way, a method an answer to the question how to get over a break up. It’s not easy to just forget who we are, who we love and move on like it’s O.K., but it’s not easy to stay in this pain for a long time either. So I’ll try to help you find an answer to the riddle how to get over a break up and move on with your life.

There are a lot of factors that come into play once you’re trying to find out how to get over a break up… are you the one who left or did you get left behind? How do you feel about your relationship now and are you determined to find out a way to get over this break up? Because if you’re not 100% sure you want out, you will not make it.

Once you’re sure you’ll do what ever it takes to find a a method that will provide the answer on how to get over a break up, you’ll IMMEDITELY start to feel better.

1st step, first answer on how to get over a break up is deciding and accepting it’s over! You’ll need to be very certain that the relationship you’ve had is, in fact, over.

You’ll only torment your self if you try to wait for your ex to change or wait for your ex to call or wait for… I don’t even know what. Accept that it’s over, face the end of your relationship. It’s the same like when you’re addicted on something that’s not a person – accepting and faecing your addiction is step one!

The second step in how to get over a break up process is being active!

I mean a lot of stuff with this, for one don’t sit home alone and cry your eyes out over a filed relationship, you’ll only feel worst (and you won’t look so good either). It’s only natural and normal that you have a need to do this, but don’t let your self slip into the self pitty, desperate mood.

You need to fight activly against it. So pick up the phone, call up your frineds and go out.

Use the extra time you now have to focus on many aspects of your life – your career, your look, your social life, your hobbies, your family… just keep active.

It’s a great time to hit the gym again too. Not only do you get to spend a lot of time re-sculping your body, but you also make a significant shift in the hormone levels in your body. This means that you’ll basicly start producing “happy” chemicals in your self that have a smillar effect as when you’re in love – the make you happy. So not only do you look better, feel better cause of the confidence boost but you also have a hormonal chemistry boost to back it up, it’s a win-win.

Now you can also spend some time figuring out what you really want out of life? How is you carerre, is there sth. you always wanted to do but still haven’t got around to doing it?

Realize that not only the world doesn’t end with break up, but it actually opens up again. All the possibilities and opportunities you might have not grabbed cause you were not single are at your disposal again.

There is also this fear that people going to a break up often experience, well there are two in fact.

no1. I’ll never love somebody else like that again

no2. (the hidden one) I’ll never find love again

Let me just say this – that is not true! There is nothing worst then settling in a bad or even just O.K. relationship cause of your fears. Call me a retro romantic all you want, but I’m sure there is “the one” out there for everybody and if you’ve just broke up with someone and you’re trying very hard to find out how to get over a break up – this person was not your one!

If you’re unhappy with ANY aspect of your life – change it. You got the power, don’t just sit back and take what life gives you or hide in a bad relationship, create your own happiness.

Next step in how to get over a break up is a simple one – socialize!

Met new people, hang out with your old friends, accpet every invite you get for getting out of the house. You will have a much happier more fulfilled life once you become a “yes” person. The one who doesn’t reject the invites he or she gets and the one who also invites other to have fun with them in return.
A “yes” person also likes to have fun, is in a good mood and communicative,  if you’re naturally more shy, that’s O.K. be shy, but don’t dismiss people because of it. Try to work on gradually becoming more open and you’ll see tons of opportunities heading your way.

Need a little more help, here is a step by step proven method how to get over a break up!

I truly hope this helped you in finding your answer on how to get over a break up!

I know this is kind off corny, but I know how unbelievably hard it can be to star the process of getting over a break up or even just getting over someone you still have feelings for (you might not have even had a relationship to begin with) so here are the good news, I promise you’ll get over this break up and be stronger then ever. Now let’s get into how to do to this. This will work for you if you’re trying to find out how to get over a guy as well as if you’re getting over a girl you used to date/like.

Getting over a break up is  NOT a one-time, quick fix process and, I’m afraid I don’t have a pill I can give you that will help you get over your ex in day. It’s a long term process that despite what you might have read in popular magazines, doesn’t have any real time-frame (you know the popular belief, if you’ve been with someone for 6 years, you’ll spend 3 years getting over a break up). Well it doesn’t work that way.

Getting over a break up depends upon many other factors:

• why did you break up
• who broke up with who
• if you were the one broken up with did you see it coming
• were you still in love with your boyfriend or girlfriend when you broke up
• are you still in love with your boyfriend or girlfriend
• did you live together
• did you share a life, marriage or kids
• how long the tow of you were together

and a bunch of other factors that are also very relevant for the relationship you used to have.

The most important factor in getting over a break up is this – how do you feel about your ex right now?

Because if you feel like you’re in love and can’t live without your ex, you’ll have a much harder time getting over a break up the in if you were married with kids for 17 years, but the love just isn’t there any more, sure you’ll be sad and miss your partner but you’ll feel differently then when you’re madly in love and can’t even imagine a day without your ex.

First thing you need to do is stop blaming your self for the break up!

It’s NEVER just one person’s fault – NEVER! Takes two to tango you know… I know it might even be easier to shift all the blame to you so you won’t have to really think about what your partner did wrong in the relatioship and why it ended in a break up, but it’s never just your fault. First step is to snap out of that self blaming mentality and take a good look at your partner.

There are a few stages you will have to go through when you’re getting over a break up:

1. Denial – you just can’t accept it and you’re trying to win your ex back or you feel like it’s not really happening, like it’s all just a bad dream
2. Anger - this is when you’re kind off hoping your’e over him or her (that bastard or bitch) and you’re really mad and you hate the other person, you might even feel like that’s it you’re completely over him BUT opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference
3. Barging - both with your self (oh he/she isn’t SO bad as I previously thought – in anger phase – pehaps I could… or maybe if he or she does this we could…) and your ex (you might want to call him or her and offer friends with benefits or a fresh start)
4. Depression - you realize it’s over and you’re really feeling down because of the loss and the fact that it’s real, there is not getting back with your ex
5. Acceptance - you’re finally done getting over your break up, you don’t fell anything strong once you see your ex again and you’re FREE

If you’re just getting over a break up you’ll tend to have phases where you can’t be objective about your ex and you’ll avoid anyone and any situation that may force you to look at your partner like a person with flaws, and that’s normal, don’t worry about it, but what I want you to do, at your own pace and time, is to find a moment where you’re completely honest whit your self, and make a list of all of your partners flaws, times he or she hurt you and times you felt like it’s just not gonna work.

Make a list, you don’t need to show it to anybody (you can mail it to me if you like) but make the list. This is the first step you can’t avoid.

Also not the opposite of love isn’t hate, but indifference!

Next thing you’ll need to do, if you’re not already, is to STOP ALL COMMUNICATION you may have had with your ex, there is NO getting over a break up if you’re still communicating with each other in any way.

Don’t call your ex, don’t pick up his or hers calls…. you know what if you’re really looking serious about getting over a break up with your ex, go ahead and delete him or her off your social networking accounts also. Don’t do it cause of hate or to spite your ex, but just so you have a clean start without him or her in the picture (and also to stop you from temptation of lurking into his or her’s profile and “relationships status”).

Like I said it’s not you shouldn’t be doing this to get back at your ex, just to move on with your life without your ex in it. It’s a big step I know and while a lot of people would advise you while you’re getting over a break up try and not be too sad or lock your self up, I’m giving you a 2 day only, get out of jail card. Well obviously not get out of jail card, but getting over a break up made easy card – take 2 days off work, unplug your phone and dig out all the photos, memories, movies, songs and things that you and your ex shared and that remind you of him or her. Take those two days off and fall apart, really… cry your eyes out, eat a ton of ice cream, stay in your PJ’s, fell sorry for your self, break stuff, do what ever you need to do. BUT once those two days are over, you’re done! That’s all you get!

It’s now time to make a brand no start and turn a new chapter in your getting over a break up story!

You will need to work harder to make your self happy while you’re getting over a break up, so while it’s O.K. that you were in a relationship and you’ve been having a lot of shared interests with your ex, now you’ll need to figure out what makes YOU happy and what interests you alone.

Remember what you used to like before you met your ex, how did you spend your free time, what did you always want do do but still didn’t? It may just be a little thing to start with – like change your hairstyle or try a look that wasn’t all you or it may be something bigger like starting kick-boxing or deciding to move to another state/country. What ever it is make sure you do it cause it will make you happy!

Also you’ll have a LOT of time and energy on your hands, I want you to keep busy as much as you can. Try out a new hobby or a sport. Enroll in a gym or do any physical activity – this will do wonders for you. Not only will you look better and fell better cause of the confidence boost, but you’ll also have an added benefit of the whole chemistry of your body changing cause of the fact you’re being active. Tons of good, “happy” hormones will overflow your body once you start to work out and you’ll become addicted.

Getting a new hobby is amazing cause you’ll be doing something you love, you’ll meet people who have similar interests and you’ll use up some of the new found extra time you now have on your hands. Now this is a special tip for all you brave ones, I love to do this when getting over a break up – I find a very exciting, sometimes dangerous, adrenaline filled hobby. Why? Well for one I love the adrenaline rush BUT I also can’t afford to think about my ex or how miserable I feel when I’m in danger of getting seriously physicaly hurt or dying! Skydiving, paragliding, bungee or any adrenaline sport will do if you feel up for it, cause it’s a different state of mind then if you for example signed up for a cooking class. But what ever you chose, do it cause it makes YOU happy.

Now is also a great time to take a trip somewhere you’ve never been but always wanted to go. Call up your friends and arrange a cool cruise or a trip to some paradise you’ve wanted to visit but didn’t have a chance. Spoil your self a bit and try to enjoy this experience you never know how you’re going to meet, plus it’s so much nicer to be getting over a break up in a 5 star hotel where everyone is trying to accommodate you then if you’re home alone staring at the wall.

Mingle, socialize and go out! Even if you don’t take a trip or take on a new hobby PLEASE don’t let your self to isolate form others. You will have a need to do it. And all the happy/in love people you ran into will be annoying to you at some point, that’s completely normal, but still don’t let your self isolate.

Call up your friends, they are you no1 asset when getting over a break up. They are the ones you’ll call at 3am sobbing and they are the ones that will boost your shattered confidence, don’t isolate them. Even if you’ve neglected them when you were in your honeymoon phase of the relationship, just give them a ring – they will understand since they are your friends who love you dearly. Reconnect with them and you’ll feel like you’re not alone in this. Of course talk to them about your break up but don’t forget to show some interest in their lives also.

Go out with them (only if you’re going drinking let one of your friends hold you phone, just in case) and go to new places, stay out of the hose as much as you can.

Don’t shot down any offers you may have to go out with the new people also, you know the ones you’ve met on your new hobby or in the gym, it’s completely O.K. to go out with new people. It’s fine to go on a date too – it will do wonders for your confidence to have someone show you how attractive you really are, but just be honest. Tell the person you’re dating that you just got out of a relationship and you’re just looking to have fun. Keep it very relaxed and casual till you fell like you’re ready for something more. And take you time, you’re just getting back in the dating game.

I’ve also met a lot of women who found a very good approach in getting over a break up – redecorating their apartments. Just go all out and change it up, you may have not lived with your ex but change will do you good! If you’re not really in the mood for such a big step you may just get a new peace of furniture just for you pleasure and enjoyment (uh… oh… I’m aware of how this may sound).

The formula to getting  over a break up is this ACCEPTANCE+FUN BY YOUR SELF+TIME = GETTING OVER A BREAK UP

Here I also have a great step by step manual on getting over a break up and I advise you to check it out, there is also a great video.

I hope this advice and how-to is going to help you in getting over a break up!